Week 12 posting

3). Pick one concept from the assigned reading, that we have no already discussed, that you found useful or interesting, and discuss it.

I thought the concept of self-disclosure was really beneficial in understanding how healthy relationships work. I learned that certain guidelines have to be met in order for self-disclosure to really work. This means that both persons have to disclose information about each other and not just one individual to be the single voice. I have a friend that discloses way too much information to people she just met, and she would get upset each time the other person would not disclose the same amount of information to her. I explained that people are not comfortable with quick intimacy of information right off the bat, and that that sort of information has its appropriate time and place in order for it to go well and to get the same reciprocation.

One should be careful and understanding when and to whom to self-disclose, because it might change the relationship forever. I learned how to respond to other's disclosures. Most people tend to nod and then offer advice and or make a judgement about what should be done. I found out that people don't always want you to offer your own two cents, instead more often than not people want somebody to listen to them, maybe probe the situation more or make reflective statements for the other person.