We tend to use filters in order to judge somebody and how close we would like to be to that person. Steve Duck identifies the four filters that he theorize people use:
sociological or incidental cues
pre-interaction cues
interaction, and finally
the cognitive cues
I have a good amount of filters that I use when it comes to romantic partners. I have to be attracted to the person so pre-interaction cues are a part of it. How a woman behaves with her friends and in general while in a public place is another pre-interaction cue that I use in order to weed out possible partners. Interaction cues such as: whether the person has goals and ambition in life, family oriented, etc. help me decide if I would like to persue this person for a long-term relationship.
I have also used sociological and or incidental cues to end a relationship. I was with someone who grow up on a very different economical status than myself plus they lived in a different city and this put a lot of strain on our relationship. I did not see a future with us so I felt that it was better to end the relationship for both of our sakes.
Until next time,
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